Happiness is All the Rage

Happiness is All the Rage

"Happiness is all the rage" is a sentiment that inspired this blog and also one of my favorite songs from The Promise Ring. You know how some songs remind you of a time/place? This song reminds me of working at Newbury Comics in 1999 (best job ever) with some of the most amazing people. I mentioned a few posts ago that I consider myself to be a generally happy person. I'm an optimist by nature but I also like to find the good in situations even if it seems impossible. Happiness is a choice I make every day. Not to say that I wake up smiley and singing show tunes every morning (I am very much NOT a morning person and I hate show tunes, for the record). But I do choose to find little things to make my day less stressful and more sparkly. :)

Last year I saw this meme (btw I just need to share that I always pronounce that word wrong. I know it's 'meem' but I say mem as in rhymes with em. I just needed to get that off my chest, lol). Anyways! Back to the meme:

So I took the challenge. I made the list and guess what? Very few things that I did on a daily basis made me happy. In fact, the things that make me the happiest were missing from my life entirely. WTF? I took this as a sign to reevaluate my priorities and since it's been a while I'm going to do it again. How can I seek happiness every day (even if it's something small)? What can I add to my life to make myself smile more?

Randomthings that make Sam* the happiest:

  • Aimless drives with the windows down and an amazing playlist
  • Sweaty exercise sessions that push me out of my comfort zone
  • Cuddling
  • Delicious meals that are healthy without compromising flavor
  • Witty banter 
  • Being near the ocean
  • Sparkles
  • People who make me laugh until my sides hurt
  • Perfect hair days
  • The satisfaction of baking something that makes someone's day
  • Seeing the stars from my moon roof

Of course this list is PG and there are things that came to my mind but I wouldn't share in a blog. After all, mom reads this! ;) So out of those 11 randomly selected things how many am I doing on a regular basis? Not as many as I should be! Now granted perfect hair days, being near the ocean and cuddling are not always within my control (my hair is fickle, the ocean is 45 mins away and I'm currently seeking love so cuddling isn't exactly happening, LOL). That said I have sought to include people in my daily life that make me laugh, encourage me to work out and love trying my culinary creations. I haven't always been great at tuning in to my own feelings and I've realized the times I am the most unhappy are the times when I'm replaced the things I like doing in my life with things I feel obligated or required to do. How many people do you spend time with that don't add to your life but instead leave you feeling drained or exhausted? For me the list used to be pretty high. I've since become very deliberate with my time. Time is a precious commodity (right up there with gold and the discontinued Urban Decay lip gunk that was sparkly and tasted like cinnamon). How are you spending your time? Is it with people and things that make you excited about life or is it with people and things that drain you and feel like a chore? I strongly encourage you to edit your life, as one of my favorite quotes says:

Years ago I read a book called "The In Between" by Jeff Goins. The idea behind the book (stolen directly from the excerpt on the back): The In-Between is a call to accept the importance that waiting plays in our lives. Can we embrace the extraordinary nature of the ordinary and enjoy the daily mundane—what lies in between the “major” moments? Learning to live in this tension, to be content in these moments of waiting, may be our greatest struggle—and our greatest opportunity to grow.

It was a great read, highly recommended, and it struck me because at the time my happiness was derived from the big moments not just the little moments. Could I be happier ever day? Could I show up to work, home, life and smile more? Could I stop dwelling  on things out of my control? Could I be happy even if I wasn't getting what I wanted in that moment? Totally. If you're someone who spends time just waiting for the next big moment to be happy I highly encourage you to read the book and find your own happy. ❤

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