Let It Go
You might be thinking the title of this post is inspired by that godforsaken Frozen song but you'd be wrong…. It's a song titled “Let it Go” by Keyshia Cole and Missy Elliott! Ha! My last important intention for the year is “let go of things that no longer serve me”. I was inspired to add this to my goals by my friend Kirstin and originally applied to the physical things in my closet. I’m a total clothes-horse, which may seem surprising given I’m overweight - however despite being fat I am super fashionable and when I find cute things in my size I tend to buy bulk (like every color they make). I also tend to buy things I don't realize I actually already own then I end up finding them (with tags) and giving them away to friends. I'm crazy! This clothes buying obsession is just one of so many things that does not serve me. In addition to draining my wallet and taking up ridiculous amounts of space in my closet this habit was just one way I would fill the void I felt of being not quite where I wanted to be in life.
How many things are you doing right now to distract you from feeling something or dealing with something? Let it go!
Besides just physical things (side note please read "The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up", it's amazing) there are so many intangible things we hold on to because of history or obligation or worst yet self-preservation. Pause for a second and think about something you're holding on to that doesn't bring you joy. Maybe it's a relationship that's you've outgrown, maybe it's a hobby that feels more like a chore or maybe it's an attitude or belief that just doesn't suit you any more. What benefit are you receiving by holding on to it? For as scary as change can be I am driven daily by the idea that staying exactly the same is even scarier. I strive every day to find things that make me happy and bring joy to my life. If something isn't fun why am I exerting effort for it?
Over the last few years I've moved on from friendships, let hobbies fall by the wayside and dropped convictions I once held sacred. I've questioned my decisions and sometimes backtracked down a road I was certain I should be going down once that feeling on my gut changed. I've added asterisks to amend things I once declared as my gospel. Most importantly I've made space in my life for the inevitable arrival of what I want ala Danielle LaPorte:
Releasing things that aren't working allows room in your life for things that will work.
But, could I do more? As Ali says in yoga could I breathe deeper? Could I push myself further? Could I extend myself longer? At every new juncture in my life could I take an opportunity to lean in more? Could I focus on letting go of things not serving me (fear, doubt, uncertainty) and replace those things with excitement and open-mindedness? Totally. I really can. You can too.
I'll leave you with a funny. Few things make me roll my eyes more than people who post quotes attributed to the wrong people. Martin Luther King Jr. never said "I mourn the loss of thousands of precious lives, but I will not rejoice in the death of one, not even an enemy."(read the article on the quote here). Marilyn Monroe never said "Well behaved women seldom make history" (that was Laurel Thatcher). Well, Buddha never said this either (but I totally wish he did):